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08 Mar One Strategy to Make Your Mind an Ocean

"When your mind is narrow, small things agitate you very easily. Make your mind an ocean." - Lama Thubten Yeshe * Do you have an easy time wallowing in what’s wrong: the negative? * If so, then you’re like most of us. We all filter our experiences – but  most of us pay too much attention to what goes wrong and too little attention to the good things in our lives—to what goes right. The psychological phenomenon is called the NEGATIVITY BIAS: humans pay more attention to and give more weight to negative than positive experiences. Humans are prone to this negativity bias, which shows...

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02 Mar What is the Top Action We Can Take to Improve Schools?

Enough is Enough Why does school often feel bad for kids? As a student, I often felt I wasn’t good enough: who I was and what the world expected me to be were at odds. As a result, I felt marginalized and alone at school. I felt voiceless.  Only later did I learn that feelings of “not being good enough (or smart enough, or good looking enough, or whatever enough)” were too common for school children. And then I became a teacher. Finally! On the other side of the desk. A dream I had since as long as I could remember. But there,...

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19 Feb Positive Psychology puts a YES in your Heart

“Positive Psychology is all about having a YES in your heart.” –Marty Seligman * Do you have a YES in your heart?  * I am a Master of Positive Psychology. From my experience, I can tell you wholeheartedly and honestly that learning this stuff puts a YES in your heart. It did for me . . . so much so that now I am working with individuals and systems to implement these principles into the daily lives of others. This stuff works! Positive Psychology is a newer field within the traditional discipline that studies the capacities that make life worth living. It’s not...

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11 Feb Keys to Optimizing Relationships

We are social-beings. Psychologist Jonathan Haidt calls us “hive creatures.” Like bees, we need each other for optimal functioning. Sometimes we are self-focused, other times we are other-focused. Like most things in life, we need a balance of both. Above all else, our deepest sense of our true self is continuously formed in connection with others. Research shows good relationships with others may be the single most important source of life satisfaction and emotional well-being. This is true across different ages and cultures. Conversely, when people recall bad events, the majority remark that those bad times have to do with relationship...

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01 Feb “Bee-Ing” The Change With Intention & Love

Changes As we enter a new era in the American political landscape, the promise of change is in the air, as Derrick Carpenter so eloquently says. Like all promises, though, this one can lead to false expectations if we fail to recognize that lasting change has to come from within each of us, individually. It is a choice. Dave Shearon’s simple framework “to happier” helps create a positive intention: Hi, my name is Louis, I want to be happier and I’m willing to work on it. John Yeager’s piece takes this intention to will and says that while wishing is important, developing new habits...

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19 Jan Who Doesn’t Need A Coach?

BOSTON, MA      “Who doesn’t need a coach?” is the question I am left pondering after attending this weekend’s sold-out conference presented by Harvard Medical School and McLean Hospital, its largest psychiatric affiliate (September 26-27, 2008). “Coaching: A New Horizon – Theory, Emerging Evidence, & Practice” (http://harvardcoaching.org/) attracted nearly 500 professional researchers, medical doctors, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, teachers, and yes, coaches, from around the world. The two-day event brought together seminal theorists and practitioners to build an intellectual and evidenced-based foundation for the emerging field of coaching psychology. The initiative is designed to bridge the ivory-towered field of positive psychology to the profession...

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14 Jan The Year of Hope!

With so much talk of mavericks last year, I have been reflecting on who really fits that bill. Is it Barack Obama for becoming the first African American president? Harvey Milk for following a civil rights dream? Was it Mother Teresa who touched the lives of people no one else wanted to help? Pope Benedict, whose visit to the US this year re-inspired many Catholics to their faith? Who are mavericks closer to home? Was it my Nana Teeney, my paternal grandmother, who graduated from New York University in 1939 as part of the first class of coed graduates? Is it...

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