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I posted this on Facebook yesterday . . . “Relationships are hard. All types. (Am eager to know what y'all think about this as I write this week's newsletter, so speak up - please.)” . . . because I wanted to see what would happen (see below for the results). But as soon as I posted it, I realized something interesting: * Isn’t the fact that I say ‘Relationships are hard’ part the very reason they remain so? * Now, granted, I am by no means suggesting that only because I say it, I will it (Well maybe I am a little bit). There are certainly...
As you may imagine, I come in contact with so many people - clients, friends, relatives -yearning for loving relationships - for real, loving relationships - the kind that make everything else all worth it. But for so many people, this is not reality. Either we’re in dead end relationships or none at all. In either case, we’re not getting what we want in life; we’re not happy. * What do you want more of in your life? What do you need more of? * Better relationships? Meaningful work? Health? Happiness? Surely, these are needs important to many, if not all,...
Given the GEC (global economic crisis) AND my traditionally poor management of money, I've been thinking a lot on this idea of really what's negotiable lately. I've come to one conclusion: everything. Financially: Think about it: you park your car on a lot on Eighth Avenue. You pay an astronomical $320 per month for the spot (extra, for a dang SUV!). You approach the lot manager and simply ask, with love and hope: "Is it possible to lower my monthly fee?" "I know that things are really tight these days, but I may be tempted to park closer to the river, where the...
[caption id="attachment_97" align="alignright" width="225" caption="Grandma Liz at 93!"][/caption] After getting an email from my sister Lisa this week entitled, “secret to a long life,” I’ve been wondering really, what it’s all about - for me. Then, serendipitously, I had the chance to do some action research this past weekend, which I spent in Cleveland, Ohio at my friend’s grandmother’s 93rd birthday. NINTY THREE YEARS YOUNG. Her name is Liz and let me tell you - she's a spitfire. She can hear, she can see (after recent cataract surgery, where for the first time in 88 years, she can really see), she can...
BE YOUR BEST SELF The good you find in others, is in you too. The faults you find in others, are your faults as well. After all, to recognize something you must know it. The possibilities you see in others, are possible for you as well. The beauty you see around you, is your beauty. The world around you is a reflection, a mirror showing you the person you are. To change your world, you must change yourself. To blame and complain will only make matters worse. Whatever you care about, is your responsibility. What you see in others, shows you yourself. See the best in others, and you will be your...
A person asked Buddha: "Are you a God?" Buddha's reply was "No." "Are you an Angel?" "No." "Then what are you?" "I am Awake." * Why is it so important to live in the PRESENT moment? * Everything! The other night I was having dinner with a friend of mine. He was telling me about a recent audition he had “It went really, really well,” he said. “How do you know,” I asked? “Because I was fully and completely present, he replied.” “I just felt it.” * What if success were as simple as that? Being fully & completely present?” * Being present is something you feel as my friend says. It’s a choice,...
“Love is in the air, everywhere I look around Love is in the air, every sight and every sound” (lyrics by Paul Young) Love is such a strange phenomenon. We all want it. We all need it. But do we all have it? I recently learned of a very cool definition of love: “Love is the flowing, the outpouring the rendering from the heart and soul of emotional goodness to yourself first, - - and then to others in your life.” (from the Hoffman Institute) With yourself first! Herein lies A KEY. * Do you love yourself? * * Do you really love yourself? * Love changes the brain. It’s all about...
Check out a bit of "positive press" on this site. By: Jen Wielgus phillyBurbs.com Louis Alloro works as a life coach, teaching people of all ages and backgrounds how to find success and happiness. Business right now is booming. "People are hungry for this stuff," he says. Aren't we, though? If we didn't have enough stress in our lives prior to the economy going south, we now worry extra hard about our jobs, our mortgages, our bank accounts, our health, our futures -- everything. All that worry can drag even the most optimistic person down, and that's where Alloro comes in. Positivity is his specialty. While studying for one...
“Positive Psychology is all about having a YES in your heart.” –Marty Seligman * Do you have a YES in your heart? * I am a Master of Positive Psychology. From my experience, I can tell you wholeheartedly and honestly that learning this stuff puts a YES in your heart. It did for me . . . so much so that now I am working with individuals and systems to implement these principles into the daily lives of others. This stuff works! Positive Psychology is a newer field within the traditional discipline that studies the capacities that make life worth living. It’s not...