Inspiration

As one of my childhood friends said on Facebook tonight, Can't help but feel the gloriously luminous supermoon is all for me. Hello Mr. Moon! And why not? Why not think it's all for you? Not in an ego-filled way that taps your hubris, but in a loving way that rocks your self-efficacy: the belief that you can do whatever you want to do in the world. Cause when it's in line with your higher self, it's automatically a win-win. The triple bottom line, baby: people, planet, and profit. As we work on the SOMO Leadership movement in Cleveland, the thought pattern we...

Today is the highest of the Jewish holy days: Yom Kippur (I love saying that with my gentile accent!). My Facebook status and Twit feed read: Am realizing we don't have to be Jewish to seek forgiveness today. Traditions are good, even when we borrow them. Atoning is about clearing psychological and emotional space, a task that I take quite seriously with myself and my clients. Who will you risk having a conversation with to ask for forgiveness? Don’t forget forgiving yourself! We are often our worst critics. Last week, the Jews celebrated Rosh Hashanah symbolizing the start of a new year...

“Boy, it went fast,” seems to be the sentiment of summer’s end. But is it really over? According to the calendar, we have 20 more days so my vote is strongly in favor of not seeing it as over, just soon to be in transition. So what should we do? Savor now! [Imagine Mr. Costanza’s Seinfeld voice inserted here.] [caption id="attachment_319" align="alignright" width="224" caption="A view from Block Island, RI"][/caption] I am having (notice present tense) an excellent summer. Spent most of August away from home on a beach tour that started (and will end this weekend) in the Hamptons, included a stay...

[caption id="attachment_303" align="alignleft" width="190" caption="circa 1980"][/caption] Picture it: 1978, Pascack Valley Hospital, Westwood, NJ - I was born an unexpected twin, breech, the youngest of four children. “Doctor you have another baby in there,” the nurse said as she was cleaning up after Christine was born. “WHAT?!??! my parents screamed.” I grew up in the suburbs of NYC (not far from the Housewives of NJ), overweight and pseudo-overachieving. I lost my brother Todd to suicide when I was 12. He was 19. Awful, tragic, sad. But I remember where I was standing that day of his death, at the edge of our driveway,...

If you can just see as I see, feel as I feel, you'll know: I'm just as f-ed up as all y'all. Really. The voices in my head are loud lately. Really loud. Getting in the way. It amazes me how neurobiological this stuff is: engrained in our DNA. [caption id="attachment_276" align="alignright" width="300" caption="Me and Christine blowing out our candles."][/caption] Last week was my birthday. 32. Woo hoo! Traditionally, my twin sister Christine and I have a joint party with her friends and mine. We call it "Twins and the City." In one form or another, we've been doing...

I’ve been working with the Governor’s Committee on Scholastic Achievement to give talks around New York to high school and college students - giving them nuggets of positive psychology that could help change the course of their lives. The best part of these programs is that they not only involve the young adults, many of whom come from tough neighborhoods, but also include their adult mentors at high power organizations like JP Morgan Chase and the Boston Consulting Group. There’s something about the diversity of these groups that is just magical - and there’s something about the power of positive psychology...

[caption id="attachment_244" align="alignleft" width="300" caption="What do you see? What do you hear? How are you guided?"][/caption] I spent the greater part of my 20s looking for my calling. I knew there was something out there for me that would just fit naturally with my interests and curiosities in the world. But what was I interested in? What was I curious about? Especially as my friends were moving up their respective (and usually corporate) ladders, I found myself feeling scared and seemingly alone. What if I never found it? But something kept me looking, even with those dark voices telling me it...

Ever since hearing President Obama’s state of the union address last week, I couldn’t help but thinking what I need to do: ask for President W and his supporters for forgiveness – forgiveness for my own lack of support during his presidency, for saying things like “He’s not my President, he’s yours.” For mocking him continually (which was easy because my friends were doing the same). But not all my friends – and certainly not many of my family members, including my parents, who have a framed photo of the man (albeit in their basement), which arrived after they made...

Hello Positive People, Here’s hoping that your first month into the new year is off to a smashing start. If not, it’s never too late. Remember it’s all about the power of NOW. One thing that’s worked for me so far in 2010 has been around building self-regulation. According to research, Americans exude this as lesser of all character strengths. In other words, we’re not good at self-control. (Not surprising, right?) But, what we also know is that self-regulation is important - it builds attention (which is limited to begin with). So, my suggestion is to build self-control in an area of your...

[caption id="attachment_208" align="alignleft" width="204" caption="Gotta love an AHA! moment"][/caption] When I was out walking Rocco this morning before my first client arrived, I had a big revelation about me and my work in the world. My job as a coach is intuitive – it is my calling, my passion. But I still have the voice in my head that says, sometimes, “you’re not good enough (at asking questions)” or “you don’t know enough (about positive psychology).” I grapple with this voice some days as I prepare to meet clients. It gets in the way. But today I thought differently. I...

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