Life Coach

11 Jan

Posted at 12:08h in Life Coach, positive emotion, Positive Psychology, Relationships, spirituality, Vision by

...on the 11th. Love it. 1. Frame what’s come before, including 2010 + the first ten days of 2011, positively. We choose how we think. Choose to think about yourself and your past with positive lenses. It’ll help move you forward. 2. Get clear about what you want going forward. Look here for some ideas about how to do that. Be careful to know the difference between what you need and what you want. Set your intentions and commit. 3. Express some future gratitude around what you want, as if it’s already here. 4. Develop a capacity for spirituality: for seeing something(s) bigger than yourself. It’s way important for a life...

20 Dec

Posted at 10:33h in abundance, Life Coach, Mindfulness, patterns, Positive Psychology by

Well I got what I wanted. (That’s always nice to say!): An incredible new living and working space, just off Union Square. It’s a beautiful prewar building and my apartment, on the third floor, is flooded with natural light from the south and the east. It’s a bit “complex,” as my friend Emiliya says, meaning it is NOT cookie cutter: there are hardwood floors, exposed bricks, and even a tin ceiling. I am happy here. I knew I would be as soon as I walked into the open house the Sunday prior to Thanksgiving. But when unfurled after that (until now)...

02 Nov

Posted at 07:48h in Coaching, Engagement, Goal Setting, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Vision by

Don’t have it all figured out? Join the club. It’s okay. Change is dynamic, not linear. Small steps have big impacts: Change requires thinking about our thinking, which is engrained in our DNA. Thinking affects feeling and feeling affects action. Action is largely habitual, so changing behavior requires a plan. A plan requires a strategy. [“Culture eats strategy for breakfast.”] A strategy requires inspiring goals and enabling objectives. Goals and objectives require a mission. A mission is defined by a vision. A vision is guided by values. What do you value? Wonder what your moral purpose may be? What is your “why” here in the world? What if everyone knew...

17 Sep

Posted at 10:01h in biases, customs, Inspiration, Life Coach, Mindfulness, neuroscience, Positive Psychology, Relationships, Schools, Social-Emotional Leadership, spirituality, Traditions, Uncategorized by

Today is the highest of the Jewish holy days: Yom Kippur (I love saying that with my gentile accent!). My Facebook status and Twit feed read: Am realizing we don't have to be Jewish to seek forgiveness today. Traditions are good, even when we borrow them. Atoning is about clearing psychological and emotional space, a task that I take quite seriously with myself and my clients. Who will you risk having a conversation with to ask for forgiveness? Don’t forget forgiving yourself! We are often our worst critics. Last week, the Jews celebrated Rosh Hashanah symbolizing the start of a new year...

03 Jun

Posted at 09:59h in Action Research, Cognitive-behavioral, gratitude, Inspiration, Life Coach, Positive Intervention, Positive Psychology, Publicity, strengths by

If you can just see as I see, feel as I feel, you'll know: I'm just as f-ed up as all y'all. Really. The voices in my head are loud lately. Really loud. Getting in the way. It amazes me how neurobiological this stuff is: engrained in our DNA. [caption id="attachment_276" align="alignright" width="300" caption="Me and Christine blowing out our candles."][/caption] Last week was my birthday. 32. Woo hoo! Traditionally, my twin sister Christine and I have a joint party with her friends and mine. We call it "Twins and the City." In one form or another, we've been doing...

12 May

Posted at 11:19h in Hope, Inspiration, Life Coach, passion, perserverance, positive emotion, Positive Psychology, Schools, Social-Emotional Leadership by

I’ve been working with the Governor’s Committee on Scholastic Achievement to give talks around New York to high school and college students - giving them nuggets of positive psychology that could help change the course of their lives. The best part of these programs is that they not only involve the young adults, many of whom come from tough neighborhoods, but also include their adult mentors at high power organizations like JP Morgan Chase and the Boston Consulting Group. There’s something about the diversity of these groups that is just magical - and there’s something about the power of positive psychology...

18 Apr

Posted at 11:28h in family, Happiness coach, Life Coach, Life Coaching, positive emotion, Positive Psychology, Social-Emotional Leadership, Thoughts-Action, Vision by

I’ve wanting to order a new Penn sweatshirt for quite sometime. The one (and only) that I own is getting a little ratty, like it may have been washed one too many times. The tassels are worn and even that little, plastic guard has come off. It’s time. But although I’ve been thinking about getting a new Penn sweatshirt for quite sometime, I haven’t done it, even with a strong intuition that it will bring me joy on some level. Every time I grab for the old sweatshirt I remember, “Oh yea, I want to look online at the Penn store...

04 Apr

Posted at 10:31h in Coaching, Engagement, family, Happiness coach, Life Coach, Life Coaching, positive emotion, Positive Psychology, Social-Emotional Leadership by

I'm getting ready to spend Easter with my family today. Deep breaths. While I'm excited to see them, I'm a bit apprehensive. It was two years ago that I launched my life's work really - the creation of Social-Emotional Leadership - the idea that groups change when people within those groups stand up and say, "Hey guys, we can do better."  Two years ago, I started  my "research" into being a Social-Emotional Leader with my own family, on Easter. It was simple: I organized a Nintendo Wii tennis tournament, which took the place of the normal and excessive eating and...

03 Mar

Posted at 12:07h in abundance, Character Strength, Coaching, gratitude, Happiness coach, Life Coach, Meaning, Positive Psychology, strengths by

➢ Use your VIA Strengths (measure them free by clicking here) to build energy and create momentum for how you be in the world. If you’re high on gratitutde for example, find innovative ways to use your gratitude, express your gratitude, be your gratitude. This will fuel your fire. ➢ Try not to let the pressure of time be against you. Time is highly paradoxical. It is not linear the way we have set it up to be. Love exactly where you are. After all, where else can you be? ➢ Remember the importance of clearing space to gain clarity and enlightenment - ending your...

03 Mar

Posted at 11:58h in Action Research, Cognitive-behavioral, Employee engagement, Engagement, Inspiration, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Mindfulness, Positive Psychology by

[caption id="attachment_244" align="alignleft" width="300" caption="What do you see? What do you hear? How are you guided?"][/caption] I spent the greater part of my 20s looking for my calling. I knew there was something out there for me that would just fit naturally with my interests and curiosities in the world. But what was I interested in? What was I curious about? Especially as my friends were moving up their respective (and usually corporate) ladders, I found myself feeling scared and seemingly alone. What if I never found it? But something kept me looking, even with those dark voices telling me it...

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