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19 Feb

Posted at 15:00h in Life Coach, Life Coaching, Positive Intervention, Positive Psychology, social contagion factor, Social-Emotional Leadership, Vision by

It is silly to assume that the more I do, the more I’ll have (or be). When we find a nice harmony between doing and being, the Universe will show us what we need to know. It must start with being. What I’ve found is that when I get caught in the whirlwind of doing for the sake of doing or because society says I should do, I lose this sense of being, which is so important to my well-being. I lose my innate ability to know. I fall asleep. That consciousness goes away. So, what I need to do...

19 Feb

Posted at 13:17h in Action Research, Happiness coach, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Meaning, Positive Psychology, social contagion factor, Thoughts-Action by

We live in a world of doing, of checklists, of go, go, go. Especially in New York city where I live, people are running all the time: the city that never sleeps. Work, gym, dinner, party, work, sleep. It’s so easy to get caught up by this energy, but is it all so good? As a detective of sorts, I’ve been keeping my eyes open to this frenetic movement and wondering how it serves me, my life. I’ve been watching my clients and friends, too, and have observed some really interesting things about how people operate. The energy that results...

05 Feb

Posted at 09:28h in abundance, Coaching, Cognitive-behavioral, forgiveness, Happiness coach, Hope, Inspiration, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Positive Intervention, Positive Psychology, Relationships, self control, self regulation, Thoughts-Action, trust by

Ever since hearing President Obama’s state of the union address last week, I couldn’t help but thinking what I need to do: ask for President W and his supporters for forgiveness – forgiveness for my own lack of support during his presidency, for saying things like “He’s not my President, he’s yours.” For mocking him continually (which was easy because my friends were doing the same). But not all my friends – and certainly not many of my family members, including my parents, who have a framed photo of the man (albeit in their basement), which arrived after they made...

03 Feb

Posted at 22:02h in abundance, Efficacy, Inspiration, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Positive Psychology, self control, self regulation by

Hello Positive People, Here’s hoping that your first month into the new year is off to a smashing start. If not, it’s never too late. Remember it’s all about the power of NOW. One thing that’s worked for me so far in 2010 has been around building self-regulation. According to research, Americans exude this as lesser of all character strengths. In other words, we’re not good at self-control. (Not surprising, right?) But, what we also know is that self-regulation is important - it builds attention (which is limited to begin with). So, my suggestion is to build self-control in an area of your...

26 Jan

Posted at 19:30h in Inspiration, Life Coach, Mindfulness, Positive Psychology, spirituality by

[caption id="attachment_208" align="alignleft" width="204" caption="Gotta love an AHA! moment"][/caption] When I was out walking Rocco this morning before my first client arrived, I had a big revelation about me and my work in the world. My job as a coach is intuitive – it is my calling, my passion. But I still have the voice in my head that says, sometimes, “you’re not good enough (at asking questions)” or “you don’t know enough (about positive psychology).” I grapple with this voice some days as I prepare to meet clients. It gets in the way. But today I thought differently. I...

14 Jan

Posted at 20:54h in Coaching, customs, Efficacy, gratitude, Inspiration, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Mindfulness, positive emotion, Positive person, Positive Psychology, Relationships, resilience, resiliency, Thoughts-Action by

Can you believe Albert Einstein said, “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” I’ve been thinking on this lately. Albert Einstein was a smart, smart man. But quotes of his like this make me see his intelligence in different, universal – perhaps even spiritual ways. I’ve been testing my ability to see everything as miracle and boy, does it take work. As a New Yorker, I’ve recently been doing this work in finding ways to enjoy winter. My tendency is...

06 Jan

Posted at 10:52h in forgiveness, Goal Setting, gratitude, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Mindfulness, Positive Psychology, Relationships, resiliency by

Well, here we are, it's 2010!   Here's my list of Top 10, of course with at positive psychology lens.  BIG clarification: Positive psychology is NOT just about positive thinking. It's about being authentic and attuned, grounded, and choosing to focus attention in certain (perhaps more positive) directions - when possible, which makes it realistic. (1) Take stock. Review 2009 with an appreciative lens. What went well? What were your wins, big & small? Make a list, post them on your refrigerator and savor. (2) Clarify your visions. Successful people know what they want. They are clear about what the future looks...

15 Dec

Posted at 20:33h in Action Research, Hope, Inspiration, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Mindfulness, positive emotion, Positive Psychology, Relationships, resiliency, savoring, Social-Emotional Leadership, Uncategorized by

Last week, our meetup discussed ways to really have a banging holiday season this year.  A mighty group of us talked about how to use Positive Psychology (the science of happiness & success) to make this happen.  We started by asking, "How do we want to be feeling on January 1?" Inspired? Excited? Rested? Hopeful? Some of our ideas for how to ensure this - about how to have a joyful season, included: * Keep a growth mindset (things change, people change) * Appreciate what's already good (what you look forward to each year - dig deep if need be) * Consider 'best' possible...

11 Dec

Posted at 12:18h in Goal Setting, Hope, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Mindfulness, Positive person, Positive Psychology, Uncategorized, Vision by

First on Barbara Walter’s special of the 10 Most Fascinating People of 2009 is Lady Gaga. What makes her so positive? “I had a dream and was fearless with my ambition,” Gaga (who’s right around my age) says. “Every bit of me is devoted to love and art.” It’s all about clarifying dreams and building intrinsic motivation around those dreams. Hope = pathways + agency. Positive psychologists study this. She says she felt like a “freak” when she was younger, especially in high school (don’t I know it too…). “I want to free them [struggling young people} from their fears and...

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