November 2018

Prime others for Positivity by asking questions like “What’s good?” “What’s working?” “What’s been a highlight of your week? This project?” This counters our negativity bias which is supported in much social science research. Then, practice Active-Constructive Responding (ACR), a method of communication in which the responder conveys authentic interest and helps the person to elaborate his or her positive experience. There are four ways people tend to respond when others share a positive experience: Active Constructive, Active Destructive, Passive Constructive, Passive Destructive.   Constructive Destructive Active Active Constructive Authentic and enthusiastic support; asking for details and leads to capitalizing: “Tell me more!” Active Destructive Quashing...

In the past few months, there has been lots of transition and change. I started a new decade and moved to a new coast, a new city and a new life, really—from teacher to student again—this time for a PhD in applied positive psychology. It’s taken me a minute to get my feet wet, adjust to a new life(style), and find my new normal. Of course, I'm still missing my east coast family and friends.  I forgot how traumatic bold transitions can be. When I give myself the permission to be human, I let my process continue to unfold exactly...

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