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27 Nov

Posted at 09:38h in Uncategorized by

Prime others for Positivity by asking questions like “What’s good?” “What’s working?” “What’s been a highlight of your week? This project?” This counters our negativity bias which is supported in much social science research. Then, practice Active-Constructive Responding (ACR), a method of communication in which the responder conveys authentic interest and helps the person to elaborate his or her positive experience. There are four ways people tend to respond when others share a positive experience: Active Constructive, Active Destructive, Passive Constructive, Passive Destructive.   Constructive Destructive Active Active Constructive Authentic and enthusiastic support; asking for details and leads to capitalizing: “Tell me more!” Active Destructive Quashing...

28 Jul

Posted at 11:24h in Positive Psychology, Relationships by

My youngest nephew Max is getting ready to leave for college. The other day, I overheard my sister telling him, “Everyone gets homesick.” Maybe we all know the heartache that comes from homesickness? Or the agony of bereavement? Or the pain of being shunned from the crowd? This is part of the hard lifestuff that positive psychology tools and strategies can help us navigate. According to research by Cacioppo & Patrick, loneliness is a subjective state. “Feeling lonely does not mean that we have deficient social skills. Problems arise when feeling lonely makes us less likely to employ the skills we have.” In...

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