Relationships

28 Jul

Posted at 11:24h in Positive Psychology, Relationships by

My youngest nephew Max is getting ready to leave for college. The other day, I overheard my sister telling him, “Everyone gets homesick.” Maybe we all know the heartache that comes from homesickness? Or the agony of bereavement? Or the pain of being shunned from the crowd? This is part of the hard lifestuff that positive psychology tools and strategies can help us navigate. According to research by Cacioppo & Patrick, loneliness is a subjective state. “Feeling lonely does not mean that we have deficient social skills. Problems arise when feeling lonely makes us less likely to employ the skills we have.” In...

15 Sep

Posted at 13:19h in abundance, change-agent, Coaching, Glimpse into Me, Learning Lab, Life Coach, Life Coaching, Relationships by

-- called Fundamentals: an Introduction to Relationship Systems Coaching: "The two-day Organization and Relationship Systems Coaching Fundamentals course explores a ground breaking model for coaching teams, families, couples, and organizations. Whether your practice area is personal coaching, family therapy or business coaching, the ORSC model will change the way you work." [caption id="attachment_1396" align="alignleft" width="300"] Crowdsourcing a request for a pair/couple to coach this Saturday night (for free) as part of my course learning.[/caption] As part of this course, I need to coach a couple or pair over the phone, in person or SKYPE on this Saturday night, the 20th of September....

27 Jun

Posted at 13:38h in Glimpse into Me, Life Coaching, Relationships, Uncategorized by

If you ask how much do I want, I’ll tell you that I want it all. This morning, you and I and all men are flowing into the marvelous stream of oneness. Small pieces of imagination as we are, we have come a long way to find ourselves and for ourselves, in the dark, the illusion of emancipation. This morning, my brother is back from his long adventure. He kneels before the altar, his eyes full of tears. His soul is longing for a shore to set anchor at (a yearning I once had). Let him kneel there and weep. Let him cry his heart out. Let him have his refuge...

01 Oct

Posted at 12:59h in abundance, Relationships, strengths by

This fall when you see geese heading south for the winter flying along in a "V" formation, you might be interested in knowing what science has discovered about why they fly that way. It has been learned that as each bird flaps its wings, it creates an uplift for the bird immediately following. By flying in a "V" formation, the whole flock adds at least 71% greater flying range than if each bird flew on its own. People who share common direction and sense of community can get where they are going quicker and easier, because they are traveling on...

10 Oct

Posted at 07:27h in Character Strength, Glimpse into Me, Meaning, Moments that matter, neuroscience, Relationships, Social-Emotional Leadership, SOMO Leadership, Uncategorized by

The field of positive psychology lost a great friend and contributor today: Dr. Chris Peterson (1950-2012). [caption id="attachment_934" align="alignleft" width="321"] RIP CP.And thank you.[/caption] You may know Dr. Peterson as the guy who researched the VIA: the character strengths inventory we use often in SOMO Leadership Labs. (We're also using his book in SOMO 300!) He put a lot of work into this tool, combing the world's many moral texts for a ubiquitous classification of strengths and virtues. I know him as Chris, one of my professors in grad school. What an amazing teacher: humorous, zestful (in his own way) and wise -...

26 Jul

Posted at 12:17h in Glimpse into Me, Mindfulness, Moments that matter, Relationships, well-being by

[caption id="attachment_888" align="alignright" width="300"] My family - Mom and Dad look too young to be married for 50 years, right?[/caption] Here I go -- off an a two-week Italian adventure with my family to celebrate mom and dad's 50th wedding anniversary.  I am so grateful to my parents for this trip (it was a good year for basement waterproofing,  my parents' business for  30 years) -- and with all of us, no less. Twin sis Chris and her new fiancé and older sis Lisa, her husband and their three kids (20, 17, 15). Two weeks may be an awful long time to spend...

07 Nov

Posted at 23:54h in Mindfulness, Relationships by

            Listen here: Someone Like You, Adele "Sometimes it last in love, but sometimes it hurts instead." Paradoxes everywhere. Polarities. Fronts and backs. Bitter + sweet. My affinity for this song does not bring me back to a bad breakup. Instead, it reminds me that nothing is forever. Everything is to be cherished. And even when we think it's over, it'll always be a part of us. May as well frame it positively....

03 Nov

Posted at 22:18h in Glimpse into Me, Opportunity/Threat, Relationships by

“There’s no one I can be more myself around than you, Louis.” Heard this twice this week – from two dear friends in separate moments – and am feeling so joyful to think that this is true. I’m honored, really, to be that in someone’s life. I’m working on letting that kind of love in, too, because really I believe transparency leads to transformation and truth, moments of growth and learning. Interestingly, though, the invitation to truly be seen and vulnerable sometimes sends me into complete threat mode, where my fight or flight response takes over. Typically, I find myself fleeing. That...

11 Jan

Posted at 12:08h in Life Coach, positive emotion, Positive Psychology, Relationships, spirituality, Vision by

...on the 11th. Love it. 1. Frame what’s come before, including 2010 + the first ten days of 2011, positively. We choose how we think. Choose to think about yourself and your past with positive lenses. It’ll help move you forward. 2. Get clear about what you want going forward. Look here for some ideas about how to do that. Be careful to know the difference between what you need and what you want. Set your intentions and commit. 3. Express some future gratitude around what you want, as if it’s already here. 4. Develop a capacity for spirituality: for seeing something(s) bigger than yourself. It’s way important for a life...

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